How do I know I need Anger Management?
February 18, 2009 by Vauna Beauvais
Angry behaviours captured on video.
Below are some links to videos of people doing inappropriate behaviours because they feel that they cannot manage their anger.
There are all sorts of ways that we behave that are inappropriate. You know -nobody is perfect. We could all over-react, and probably have done at one time or another.
If over-reactions are becoming habitual, you may decide that you would like to do something about it. Either you dont feel good about what you are doing, or you feel uncomfortable or ashamed, or perhaps people around you have let you know that it needs to stop.
Some examples of inappropriate behaviours are shown in the videos below. This is by no means an exhaustive list. (if you know of more, or better, please let me know).
In displaying the videos it is my intention to let you see how things might look from the perspective of other people.
- You could be caught on video, doing your angry displays!
If you feel that you would like to speak with me to address some of your issues around emotions, please get in touch. You will be treated with respect and understanding. The main focus will be to help you to change things and put things right.
Missed Flight
After missing her flight to San Francisco, the woman throws a tantrum that was filmed by an employee of the airline Cathay Pacific.
She is seen screaming at the departure gate and then falls to the ground wailing “I want to go! I want to go!” in Cantonese while an older man traveling with her tries to get her on her feet. “Don’t be so upset, don’t be so emotional,” a Cathay Pacific employee is heard saying on the video.
Watch closely, because at the very end of the video, she stops acting hysterical and begins to give her travelling companion a hard time. She takes her anger our on him, and he has done nothing to contribute to her anger
- Having a silly tantrum, but look at the end of the video, very subtle anger / bullying towards her male friend
Laptop
Dad in the garden playing with card tricks. Son on the stairs on laptop. Mum over-reacts, much to the surprise of dad. How does dad handle this afterwards? How does mums behaviour affect their relationship?
Go to youtube video of mum with sons laptop. See how a brief moment of going out of control can cause sadness to someone else
- Spontaneous loss of control
Office Rage
This is an extreme version of a rage. Most people do not go this far. However, take a look at this video.
- Flipping out and having a big impact on others
If you are tempted to be amused by what happened, and giggle - take a look at another version of the same thing - listen to how frightened people are. Getting itno a rage really frightens the people around you
- Version with sound
Feeling Entitled to show everyone how angry you feel
Some people have a problem with anger that stems from the fact that they feel entitled to show and display their anger to everyone around - no matter how deep the degree. In fact, as the level of frutration increases, so does the feeling of entitlement to show others just how mad they feel.
Notice, not only how undignified it appears to others, but also, how frightening and disturbing it is for other people
- “I believe that I’m entitled to show just how frustrated I feel”
Blaming others for what is not their fault
This needs little explanation. He got into a rage and lost all notions of proper conduct, and didnt consider any consequences tha would resut from his actions
This professional man was arrested.
What would have happened if the police were not there already?
- Blind rage
Go to the page on anger management counselling
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