How to be happy

February 18, 2009 by Vauna Beauvais

The law of abundance

The law of abundance says that there is everything a-plenty.

Take a moment to ingest that.

There is everything in abundance.

It’s quite a stretch, isn’t it?

There is plenty of happiness available to you. Plenty of love. Plenty of kindness. Plenty of support.

Hmmm.

Do you believe that?

What does not believing that do to you?

How does believing that there is not plenty of happiness for you, or there is not enough love or support out there that you can get?

Does it stop you from trying to get happiness?

Acceptance is one thing.

Apathy is another.

N.B the law of abundance is not the same as ‘The Law of Attraction’ see this review about a book called, ‘The Secret’ that describes the law of attraction

What if…

What if there was no real shortage?
What if you can have virtually all that you really want and need?
What if we live in a generous universe surrounded by blessings and opportunities to acquire all that we truly desire?

What if people become happy because they desire to become happy?

What if people become happy because they believe that they have the ability to become happy?

What if they act in a way that is congruent to those beliefs?

What if they consistently take the necessary actions that turn their beliefs into realities?

What if they get to grips with all the things in life that have made them unhappy.
What if they deal with those things (either current situations, or bad memories).
What if they find a way to move on appropriately, and live happily today?

Be happy today

Moving on is not about denial, or discounting the significance of events, thoughts, feelings, and situations.

It is about processing those things, i.e.

Acknowledging,
Understanding the impact,
Coming to terms with them,
Accepting the past,
Working through guilt, regret, remorse, grief, if necessary,
Moving on to deal with the present.
And then finally making an impact on your own future.

Review your reasons

Why aren’t you happy already?

This is an important decision to ask yourself.

Answering this question can reveal your blocks to happiness, and that’s great! It gives you the material to work with.

Exercise

This exercise in two parts.

Questions
Solutions

While working through this exercise,

Allow yourself to answer the question over and over again, without giving the same answer twice.
Answer the questions very quickly, do not deliberate or agonise over what you are going to say.
Write your answers down, we will review what you have written, later in the exercise.

Why is it the same question? It isn’t! Your mind can hear the question differently every time, and / or generate different answers every time.

By the time that you get over 5 or so answers to the questions below, you start getting beyond excuses and justifications and moving into underlying beliefs that are holding you back from being happy.

Questions:

Why am I not happy already?